9 ways to keep your marriage healthy at any age

By Kate Stinchfield

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes decades of time together strewn with a minefield of potential relationship wreckers. It’s a wonder that anyone ends up walking off into the sunset, hand-in-wrinkled-hand, with a silver-haired mate. What do those geriatric lovebirds know that you don’t?

Well, the truth is that even in so-called happy marriages, both partners probably fantasize some of the time—or even much of the time—about throwing in the towel. A Woman’s Day and AOL Living poll found that a shocking 72% of women surveyed have considered leaving their husbands at some point. But despite the occasional rocky patch, 71% expected to be with their husbands for the rest of their lives. So how do you make it to the finish line with your relationship intact?

Each decade will have its own drama, be it child-rearing, layoffs, second careers, and middle-aged angst, along with a big helping of the in-sickness-and-in-health stuff. Here’s how to have a healthy relationship every step of the way.

1. Watch your waistline
Now that you’re married, you can finally relax and skip the gym, right? Wrong. Wedded couples tend to have fatter waistlines, which can spell trouble in terms of sexual attraction and general health. A 2007 study published in the New England Journal of Medicine found that your chances of becoming obese increase by 37% if your spouse becomes obese. So unless you want “till death do us part” to include chronic health issues like heart disease and diabetes, it’s important to establish healthy eating habits early on. But warding off weight gain isn’t as simple as whipping up a healthy meal together. Eating with anyone—from your spouse to coworker—can cause you to consume 33% more than you would solo.

Being aware of the potential fatty pitfalls of marital bliss may be enough to keep your portion sizes in check. Spend couple time checking out local farmers' markets on the weekends in an effort to consumer fresher, low-calorie fare. Or schedule an exercise date to work off some of your hearty, homemade dinners.

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2. Have a financial plan
Nearly 40% of married people admit to lying to their spouse about a purchase, according to a 2004 poll, and money woes can quickly send your marriage south. In fact, money is the number-one reason couples fight, and relationships tend to suffer during poor economies. You should discuss and agree upon some hard financial ground rules, preferably before you tie the knot.

Don’t fret if you’re a spendthrift and your partner pinches pennies. “It’s probably not a good thing to have the exact same philosophy about money, “ says Ken Robbins, MD, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. “But financial issues are best to resolve early on. You want to decide who is going to pay the bills, how much discretionary spending is reasonable, and how you’re going to keep track of it all.”

3. Figure out your family rules
Couples spend the first 5 to 10 years of their marriage butting heads over how their family should work, says Dr. Robbins. “People often don’t realize that they come into a marriage with an idea of how a family works based on their own family—whether they liked them or not,” he adds. You can end up fighting over something as trivial as how you should hang your toilet paper, but those little issues can add up to big problems, particularly if children enter the picture. A 2004 study found that how a couple manages parenting responsibilities when the child is an infant is associated with the quality of their marriage two-and-a-half years later.

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You and your partner may have vastly different ideas about how a child should be cared for and what constitutes family together time. If one of you is working, should the other partner get up with the baby at night, or should you take turns? Is it important for you to sit down to dinner as a family every night? “You need to figure out how you can live together happily while each maintaining your own sense of self,” says Dr. Robbins.

4. Make sex a priority—but not a chore
While you should make sex a priority, you shouldn’t pencil it in on your planner. If you schedule sex, it becomes a responsibility—just like taking out the trash, says Andrew Goldstein, MD, an obstetrician and gynecologist at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, in Baltimore, and the coauthor of Reclaiming Desire. The average married couple has sex 58 times per year, or slightly more than once a week. And a recent eight-year study found that 90% of couples experienced a decrease in marital satisfaction after the birth of their first child. Yikes!

But it doesn’t matter whether you’re having sex five times a week or five times a year—as long as both of you are happy, says Dr. Goldstein. In fact, a 2008 study found that couples who reported any kind of marital intimacy—everything from holding hands to sex—exhibited lower levels of a hormone produced by stress.

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5.  Be flexible
Whatever financial and household arrangements you agreed to in your 20s or 30s, chances are they’re going to change at some point in your marriage. Men account for 82% of recent job losses during this recession, meaning couples are making some hard choices when it comes to both their careers and their checking accounts.

If the traditional breadwinner is laid off, the stay-at-home parent may need to head back into the workforce. Conversely, if you become a stay-at-home partner—due to choice or circumstance—expect to do more of the shopping, cleaning, and other chores that make a household run smoothly. A recent analysis of government data found that employed women spend significantly more time on child care and housework than employed men—and unemployed men.

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Having an open discussion of how household duties need to change can help couples weather some tough transitions. “Everyone has a role within the relationship and as long as there’s a greater good, it’s not a question about whether it’s his money or her money,” says Dr. Goldstein. “It’s their money. Your paycheck and your career are not the value of your worth.”

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6. Stay active as you age
If you’re like most American couples, you don’t exercise or you stopped regularly exercising when you had children. Try to find new ways to stay active as a couple, whether it’s hitting the tennis courts or hiking trails. A 1995 study found that couples who work out together are more likely to stick with an exercise program. And some experts suggest that couples who exercise more frequently tend to have better sex lives.

Pick up a life sport that you can enjoy together for decades to come, like golf, tennis, or hiking. You don’t need to be seriously sweating to reap the benefits of regular exercise. Experts say that moderate exercise is enough to help stave off heart disease and other ailments.

7. Gab (a little) to your friend
In the last decade, researchers have noted a rise in “gray divorce,” or couples over 50 who are calling it quits. While it’s tempting—and often prudent—to keep couple conversations behind closed doors, you may actually benefit from blabbing to a close friend.

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“It’s often helpful to talk to couple friends when these big issues come up,” says Dr. Robbins. “Many couples live very privately and discuss these issues with the shades down, but relationship issues like this can often benefit from hearing how people that you trust dealt with a similar situation.” Whether it’s hearing how a friend dealt with her husband’s infidelity or other big hurdles, a little empathy can put things in perspective. But keep your gabbing under control. “Clearly it’s never a good idea to say anything—even to a close friend—that you wouldn’t want repeated back to your spouse in five years,” warns Dr. Goldstein.

8. Rediscover each other as a couple, sans kids
Forget empty nest syndrome—a 2008 study found that marital satisfaction actually improves once children leave home. Female participants reported spending equal amounts of time with their partners both while their children lived at home and after, but they noted that the quality of that together time was better once the kids were out of the picture. “Suddenly the tyranny of the children controlling the household is relieved,” says Dr. Robbins. “You don’t have to have dinner at 6, you don’t have to spend Saturdays at the soccer field, and you don’t have to be so responsible all the time.” Use this newfound freedom to bend the rules a bit and rediscover what you love about each other.

But if marital problems have already been bubbling, an empty nest can reveal serious tension. “All of a sudden the noise is gone,” says Dr. Robbins. “If you didn’t have much to talk about, it suddenly becomes more apparent once the kids are gone.”

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9. Be a conscious caregiver
In the event of a serious illness, spouses who assume the role of caregiver often develop a sense of “caregiver burden” and may become ill themselves. So it’s vital that both spouses ask for help when they need it. Getting out to see friends and socialize is particularly important for caregivers. And realize that you both have limitations.

“The spouse who needs help typically feels guilty and frustrated. The spouse who has to help feels controlled by it,” says Dr. Robbins. “While you can’t fix those issues, you at least need to be open about them.” 

 

I believe that whatever situation comes to the relationship, both should be able to know the rules and know what is expected of eachother. We dont really need any others to control or advise how our relationships work, thats why we have eachother as a married couple rite? If you made the vow to be there thru sickness and in health or sicker or poorer and so on, we all know who we marry so we should not have any problems with trying to keep it healthy. Think things thru and sooner or later we figure out that all along all we ever needed was eachother and none else.

 

White Chocolate Mocha

Quench your thirst with these sweet and comforting concoctions!



Ingredients:
1/2 can Carnation Condensada
1/2 cup white chocolate, chopped
1 cup milk, with froth - use full cream milk
1 shot espresso

Directions:
1. Combine condensed milk and white chocolate in a double boiler. Stir until smooth.
2. Place 2 tablespoons of the chocolate mixture in the bottom of a glass.
3. Pour steamed milk and some froth. Use stove top. Whisk milk in the pan until froth is created. (start with cold milk then whisk continuously to create froth)
4. Dribble espresso slowly in the drink using the back of the spoon to create a layered effect.
5. Add some more froth to clean up the top. Or garnish with whipped cream, and shaved white chocolate. Serve immediately.

CHICKEN RELLENO by Chef Jill Sandique

Ingredients:

For the chicken

1 whole chicken, about 2 kilograms, washed and deboned
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1½ teaspoons soy sauce
1 teaspoon lemon or calamansi juice
salt and pepper, to taste

For the stuffing

2 tablespoons vegetable or corn oil
1½ cups chopped onion
2 teaspoons minced garlic
¼ cup celery

1¾ cups diced white bread, about 70 grams
1/3 cup fresh milk

500 grams ground pork
¼ cup chopped chorizo Bilbao
½ cup chopped sweet ham
2 tabespoons chopped pimiento
¼ cup sliced green olives
¼ cup dark raisins
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1 teaspoon soy sauce
½ teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon ground black pepper
2 large eggs, lightly beaten
olive oil or melted butter, for brushing

Method:

1.     In a bowl, marinate chicken in Worcestershire sauce, soy sauce and  lemon or
calamansi juice. Season with salt and pepper.  Refrigerate for  30 minutes.

2.    In a sauté pan, heat oil.  Add the onions and  cook until translucent.  Add
the garlic and cook briefly.  Add the  celery and cook a few minutes more. 
Remove from heat and cool  completely.

3.    Meanwhile soak bread in milk until softened.

4.     In a large bowl, mix together ground pork and the rest of the  ingredients. 
Add the cooled onion mixture and the soaked bread.  Blend  well.


5.    Preheat oven to 350F.  Fill chicken with meat  stuffing.  Sew up with a
cotton twine, if necessary.  Place stuffed  chicken in a roasting pan, together
with the bones, liver and giblets.  Brush with olive oil or butter.  Roast for
2 hours. Cover with aluminum  foil if necessary. Remove from oven and allow
chicken to rest for 30  minutes.


6.    Transfer chicken to a serving platter.  Cut into 1/2 - inch thick slices. 
Serve with Chicken Relleno with catsup or gravy.

7.     Optional:  To make the gravy, deglaze roasting pan with a little red or 
white wine.  In a saucepan, melt ¼ cup butter.  Add ¼  to ½ cup flour  and cook
until bubbly.  Add 2 cups chicken stock and the pan juices.  Whisk well.  Chop
the liver and giblets and add to the pan.  Season with  salt, pepper and thyme.

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Travel Tips For travelling with preschoolers

Courtesy of www.travelforkids.com

 

For travelling with preschoolers
No matter what age your children are, it's a great time for taking them on travels near and far. The surprise for many parents is that the amount of preparation and effort put into a day trip with preschoolers to a lake or on a picnic isn't much different than for a month-long trip to places farther from home. You just have to be prepared to take kid-sized steps and expect to restock on "essentials" as you go.

Traveling with preschoolers is really fun - they are so wide-eyed and ready for adventure, with few, if any preconceptions. You already know what great ice-breakers kids are, they talk to anyone and see other small kids as potential playmates. Kids always seem to find playmates to share kites and balls and other toys in parks and beaches. After all, sand castles are built from Bali to British Columbia. Kids are also a great excuse for going to some of the best spots, like pony rides, carousels and petting zoos.

More reasons why you shouldn't put off travels with little ones? Preschoolers have a wonderful ability to conveniently drop off into naps during long train and plane rides - and the cost of taking them on those trains and planes is usually far cheaper than for teens. They're also often a golden ticket to special favors and attention from strangers everywhere. Traveling in Europe? Don't be surprised to find waiters greeting kids with a small plate of crackers and cheeses to keep them content while orders are taken and prepared (how smart is that?). In fact, all over the world, restaurants are used to indulging finicky little ones, easy to do since little kids' tastes usually run to the plain and unadorned.

Of course, it's not all cooing waiters and napping babes, so go prepared if you want everyone to enjoy the trip.
The first preparation is packing, and you'll find that the "wants" and "needs" lists for little kids may actually be only one list. The trick is to consider what's needed for keeping little ones content and you'll soon realize that a lot of "wants" like toys and treats, really are "needs" for a long trip. Get lightweight nylon drawstring bags to hold fun stuff for each kid, then pack them in your carry-on luggage. Or, if your kids are four or five, they can have their own small backpacks full of toys, books, etc. or rollerbags they can happily wheel around the airport.

The number one thing to remember? A beloved "snuggly." Sometimes a toy is just a comfort item clutched when a child is in an unfamiliar place or trying to get to sleep. Sometimes it's animated in a child's imagination and confided to with whispered words in a corner. Whatever its role, don't separate a child from a beloved stuffed animal, doll, or other snuggly such as a blanket or pillow - the added bulk will more than pay its way.

Another essential is a stroller that's lightweight and easily collapsible. Airline crew will hang yours just inside the boarding door, and you can hook it on a coat rack or under chairs at restaurants, etc. In a pinch, many large hotels also offer "loaner" strollers (and umbrellas) as well, just ask the concierge. Buying one? Get a model with a sturdy mesh basket for "essentials," a good hood in case of drizzle, and easy to set-up or collapse with one hand.

A few tips on toys. Include some tried-and-true favorites, have some brand-new, inexpensive surprises, don't pack noisy toys (not only will you get tired of the noise, the people traveling nearby may get demonstrably irate) and plan on picking up local treasures along the way.

One friend always packs felt pads and a bag of felt shapes or the magnetic play board versions. They make great toys since the variety is limited only by imagination. Another friend packs new DUPLO packets. In short, try to take along toys that get used in lots of ways, there's no room for one-trick ponies in your luggage.
You'll also want to take along at least a couple favorite books and plan to pick up some local treasures along the way. Picture books for non-readers are great, but bring some you can share as well. Slightly older kids may like the suspense of hearing a chapter book read to them a little at a time. On one plane ride I apparently read "The Three Little Pigs" to my four year old with such emotion that two businessmen across the aisle dropped their conversation and started listening in (one gave me a big beaming smile when I started huffing and puffing). Don't be shy. Why should the sound of a children's story be any more intrusive than other conversations on the plane? It isn't. Besides, cuddling up together for a half-whispered story is a wonderful way to spend waiting time, or bedtime.

Bring your own movies for long flights. One friend recommends a portable DVD player, another uses a laptop to play DVD movies. (Newer planes have a outlet in the seat armrest to plug in your electronics.) Bring along one or two favorite movies for little ones - they will happily watch them over and over. Remember to pack headphones (ones that your child will wear) or turn down the volume while watching the movie.

Keep in mind that the most fascinating book, toy or game has limited appeal. Don't make kids go too far a stretch at once. Mix up sight seeing with play time and snack breaks. An exhausted preschooler (or parent) is no happy camper.

For long stretches on planes, trains, waiting rooms, stock up on snacks like baby carrots, trail mix, crackers, bite-size PowerBars, dried fruit, string cheese, juice boxes that can satisfy little tummies quickly, then restock as you go. One flight from Los Angeles to Denver was delayed for over an hour before we boarded, and for another hour on the runway. The crew refused to give anyone drinks or snacks while we waited, but my daughter contentedly sipped her juice and snacked on trail mix while we adults stewed.

Even if you order a kid's meal on a plane, whatever is served, it may not be something your child likes (some kids just aren't interested in peanut butter and jelly). Bring your own mini-meal, like instant noodles in a cup (just add hot water) or macaroni and cheese in a foil pouch. Ask the flight attendant to heat up the macaroni and cheese, and your kids can eat when they're hungry.

All this talk of snacks and toys and new purchases probably has you a little worried about running out of room. Well, if you've packed cheap crayons, coloring books, puzzles, etc. as your original "fun packs" when you left home, then you have "expendable" things you can ditch as you need to make room for new treasures.
In the end it all comes down to flexibility. Pack for preschooler needs, expect to be spontaneous, let your little one introduce you to a few new friends and places and everyone will have a great time!
Great Travel Foods:

1. individual applesauce and fruit cups (don't forget plastic spoons)
2. dry crackers - small snack pack size
3. individual size water bottles (a permanent marker will help to keep these separate)
4. individual cereal boxes
5. flavored rice cakes
6. juice boxes/bags
7. jar of peanut butter and loaf of bread (don't forget a plastic knife)

Items to Always Have on Hand While Travelling:

1. Band-Aids
2. antiseptic hand gel
3. small tissue packs
4. sun screen
5. Dr.'s phone numbers
6. Tylenol - children's and adults
7. a rubber door stop can provide extra security for a hotel room door
8. small nightlight - to help find the bathroom in the middle of the night
9. Crayons
10. mechanical pencils
11. highlighter - good for word search games
12. paper
13. deck of cards
14. zip lock bags (collecting shells, storing food, wet clothes)
15. sun glasses
16. hats/visors
17. light weight wind breaker
18. umbrella
19. camera with extra film
20. keep a photo of your child in your wallet - in case you loose them in a crowed area
21. extra copy of birth certificates, photo id, travel reservations, airline tickets

www.travelforkids.com

Breastfeeding and returning to work

Join the many women who continue breastfeeding after returning to work!

Why continue to breastfeed?
Your baby needs only breastmilk for the first six months, and you can continue to breastfeed for up to two years and beyond. Solid foods are to be introduced at six months.
Continued breastfeeding is important for your baby because it:
Benefits brain development;
Protects against illnesses such as colds, coughs, ear infections;
Helps to reduce allergies;
Reduces risk of obesity and heart disease; and
Reduces risk of juvenile diabetes and some childhood cancers.
Mothers who continue to breastfeed have:
Weight loss;
Reduced risk of some cancers; and
Less chance of osteoporosis
Planning Ahead
Call a Public Health Nurse about one month before returning to work to talk over your breastfeeding options.
Adjusting feeding routines
Scheduling work
Maintaining or adjusting your milk supply
Using cups and bottles*
Expressing or pumping
Storing breast milk
Choosing a child care provider who supports breastfeeding
Talking to your employer about your plan
Understanding your rights to continue breastfeeding
Knowing your employer's responsibilities
*Early introduction of bottles can affect your milk supply. In most cases, you can introduce a cup for babies over eight months old, depending on the child.
More tips:
Breastfeed before you leave for work and when you return home
Find a convenient time and place for pumping or breastfeeding at work
Look at a photo of your baby while pumping to help with milk flow
Pump twice during a 7-8 hour shift to maintain your milk supply
Store breast milk in a refrigerator at work or in a cooler bag with an ice pack.
Call Region of Peel - Public Health for an information sheet on storing and thawing breast milk.
For more information and help:
Region of Peel - Public Health
905-799-7700 Peelregion.ca/health
accountforhealth.ca
Ontario Human Rights Commission
1-800-387-9080 hrc.on.ca/English/publications/pregnancy-policy.shtml
La Leche League Canada
1-800-665-4324 Lllc.ca
Child Development Resource Connection of Peel
(child care information) 905-890-9432
Human Rights & Social Development Canada
(maternity leave, jobs, training) 905-790-2525 Hrsdc.gc.ca
The Ontario Human Rights Commission says:
Women should not be discriminated against in any way because they have chosen to breastfeed. A supportive environment can be created with minimal disruption.
Information for Employers
There are many benefits for employers who support working mothers and breastfeeding.
Reduced absenteeism by parents of healthy breastfed babies
Reduced health benefit costs
Improved retention of female employees
Greater employee loyalty is found in family-friendly workplaces
For employer responsibilities, please see the Policy on Discrimination Because of Pregnancy and Breastfeeding from the Ontario Human Rights commission. It's the law.
For more information on comprehensive workplace health, visit: accountforhealth.ca
Information provided by the Region of Peel

Back to Work After Baby

Ann Douglas

Returning to work after maternity leave doesn’t have to be the stuff of which new mom nightmares are made. Here are some mom-proven strategies for making the transition as stress-free as possible for you and your baby.

BEFORE YOU RETURN TO WORK

• Tap into the working mom grapevine. Find out what types of strategies other moms in your workplace have used to make those first few weeks back a little less stressful, and what concessions have been made to their requests. You might discover, for example, that it is possible to work part-time hours during your first week back (either by following a half-day or an every-other-day schedule). Or you might be able to arrange to return to work on a Wednesday so that you only work a half-week.
• Get your childcare arrangements in order. Ensure that your childcare arrangement is as solid as possible—and then come up with a plan for backup care. The message here is plain and simple: No childcare arrangement is foolproof. If your child is being cared for in a family daycare or by a childcare provider in your own home, you’ll need to consider what to do if the childcare provider wakes up with the stomach flu. And if your child is being cared for in a childcare centre, you’ll need to think about what you’d do if you got a call saying that the centre had to close for a day because a pipe burst. When you’re considering who you might turn to for backup care, look for someone whose parenting philosophies are compatible with your own and who is likely to be available when you need her. There’s no point listing Mary Poppins as your backup caregiver if she’s off flying across the sky with her umbrella when the daycare tries to reach her.
• Look for ways to reduce the amount of work you’ll have to do on the home-front. Hire a college or high school student to pitch in with chores for a couple of hours each week. And plan to eat ready-made casseroles from the freezer during your first week back at work.

AFTER YOU RETURN TO WORK

• Don’t try to catch up on all the items on your to do list at work all at once. You’ve been off work for an extended period of time. It’s unrealistic for you or others to expect you to be able to catch up overnight. You can reduce these work-related re-entry pains by having some contact with your friends and colleagues from work during your maternity leave, but you’ll want to be clear from the outset about just how much contact you want to have with work. Remember you’re entirely within your rights to say you don’t want to have any contact at all.
• Be prepared to feel unprepared. You and your baby are going to be riding an emotional rollercoaster that first week back and, as the grownup, you're responsible for caring for the two of you. Yes, you, too. The ride will be all-the-more hair-raising if you're feeling physically depleted, so you need to make your own physical health a priority, regardless of how busy you are. That means eating healthy food, finding time to be physically active (even if it's just a ten-minute walk during your breaks, your lunch hour, and right after work), and getting as much sleep as your schedule (and your baby) allow. More advice: Try to keep non-essential commitments to a minimum. Don't overload your evenings and weekends with volunteer work and family gettogethers. Give yourself and your baby time to get used to your new back-to-work routine.
• Reduce early morning chaos by doing as much packing and organizing as you can the night before. Stock your baby's change bag with anything that doesn't require refrigeration. Create master lists and checklists and store the originals on your computer so that you don't have to constantly re-invent the wheel.
• Don't be surprised if you find that your baby takes on a strange Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde persona. When you drop him off at daycare, he can't bear to say goodbye; when you pick him up, he pretends you're total strangers—almost as if he's "punishing" you for "abandoning" him earlier in the day. Then, in the middle of the night, he wants to squeeze in bonus mommy-cuddle time (this despite the fact that he had been sleeping through the night for months before your return to work). Realize that this frustrating (and exhausting) stage will pass once your baby settles into his routine. In the meantime, be loving and patient. After all, your baby is simply looking for some added reassurance from you that the two of you are still bosom buddies, even if you're no longer breastfeeding 24/7
• Steer clear of the Supermom trap. While you want to demonstrate to your coworkers that you're still committed to your job, but you don't have to go overboard in trying to prove that everything is "business as usual." Having a baby is a life-changing event, and it would be unrealistic for you to expect yourself to step back into your old role as if nothing in your universe had changed. Everything has changed, you included. Of course, you can still be a committed and productive employee (which is all that really matters to your coworkers and your employer anyway).
• Realize that this too shall pass. Like all challenging parenting stages before it and all challenging stages to come, this is a limited time offer. It won't be long before your child is the biter—or the bitee—at daycare, and you're trying to troubleshoot that problem in the middle of a meeting with your boss. Hold on tightly and enjoy the ride!

Ann Douglas is the author of The Mother of All Baby Books, Mealtime Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler, and Sleep Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler. Visit her online at www.having-a-baby.com.

Christmas Clusters

Ingredients:
1 cup dark chocolate, melted
1/2 cup walnuts
2 cup cornflakes
Choquick Instant Chocomalt Powder

Directions:
1. Melt the dark chocolate
2. Fold cornflakes and nuts in the dark chocolate until completely covered
3. Drop by spoonfools on a sheet pan with parchment paper.
4. Sprinkle with Choquick Chocomalt powder
5. Refrigerate until set

http://www.wmn.ph/article/2174/desserts-for-the-holidays/4

Tooth Care

Courtesy of the Canadian Dental Association

A helpful guide to caring for your child's teeth whether they are a baby or a toddler
Young children are not able to clean their own teeth. As a parent, you must do it for them when they are very young and do it with them, as they get older. When your child can write (not print) his or her name, your child is ready to do a good job brushing. You should check to make sure your child does a good job. You should start cleaning your child's mouth even before your child has teeth. It gets both you and your child into the habit of keeping the mouth clean, and it gives baby (or primary) teeth a clean place to come into. The goal is to wipe all parts of the gums and teeth.
For babies...

1. Lie your baby in a comfortable place.
2. Make sure you can see into your baby's mouth.
3. Use a soft baby brush or wrap your finger in a clean, damp washcloth. Then, brush or wipe your baby's gums and teeth.
4. Do not use toothpaste until your child has teeth.

Once your child has teeth...
Step 1: Hold the toothbrush at a 45-degree angle to the teeth. Point the bristles to where the gums and teeth meet.
Step 2: Use gentle circles. Do not scrub. Clean every surface of every tooth. For the front teeth, use the "toe" or front part of the brush. The key word is gentle. You can hurt the gums by brushing too hard.
Toothbrushes and toothpaste
The best kind of brush is soft, with rounded bristles. It should be the right size for your child's mouth. You will need to buy a new toothbrush at least every 3 or 4 months.
Children can be hard on toothbrushes. If the bristles get bent or worn down, they will not do a good job, and may hurt your child's gums.
Make sure the toothpaste has fluoride. Check the box or tube for the symbol of the Canadian Dental Association. This symbol means the toothpaste has fluoride. Use only a bit of toothpaste, about the size of a pea, and make sure your child spits it out.
As excessive swallowing of toothpaste by young children may result in dental fluorosis, children under 6 years of age should be supervised during brushing and only use a small amount (e.g. pea-sized portion) of toothpaste.
Children under 3 years of age should have their teeth brushed by an adult using only a smear of toothpaste.
How to floss
Step 1: Take a piece of floss about as long as your child's arm. Wrap it around your middle fingers, leaving about 2 inches between the hands. Use your index fingers to guide the floss between the teeth.
Step 2: Slide the floss between the teeth and wrap it into a "C" shape. It should wrap around the base of the tooth, where the tooth meets the gum.
Step 3: Wipe the tooth from bottom to top 2 or 3 times or more, until it is squeaky clean.
Be sure you floss both sides of each tooth, and don't forget the backs of the last molars.
Move to a new part of the floss as you move from tooth to tooth.
Should my child always brush right before bed?
Yes. If you don't get rid of the germs (bacteria) and sugars that cause cavities, they have all night to do their dirty work. Plus, when your child is asleep, he or she does not produce as much spit (or saliva). Saliva helps keep the mouth clean. So brushing at bedtime is very important.
Pacifiers and Thumb Sucking
It is normal for babies to suck because it helps them relax. By the time your child is two or three years of age, he or she has less need to suck. If your child still likes to suck, a soother is better than sucking a thumb. Why? Because you can control when and how your child uses a soother. You can't control a thumb going into the mouth.
Never put sugar, honey or corn syrup on a soother. They can cause cavities. It's best to get your child to stop sucking before permanent teeth come in, at about age five. If a child keeps sucking a soother or thumb after the permanent teeth have come in, it could cause problems with how the jaw and teeth grow.
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Spanking: It hurts more than you think

The problem with spanking

Spanking is hitting. Spanking is meant to cause pain to control a child's behaviour. When you're stressed and angry, spanking may seem like a quick way to stop misbehaviour - but it doesn't work.
Spanking may cause your child to fear you and stop trusting you. Anger, resentment and shame can build up in your child, and this can hurt your relationship. These bad feelings can also hurt your child's self-esteem and ability to have healthy relationships with others.

Why discipline works

All children need discipline. It teaches self-control, responsibility and acceptable behaviour. Unlike spanking, which uses pain, fear and shame, discipline means teaching, guiding and nurturing.
Discipline doesn't mean your child gets away with misbehaving. Discipline puts rules and limits in place early in life to give children guidance. It takes patience and commitment, but the rewards are worth it.
Some children are not able to do what you want because of their age or stage of development. A toddler, for example, wants to touch everything. This is a normal part of development. It is not "bad" behaviour. Under-standing how a child develops will help you choose the best way to discipline as your child grows. Remember that all children are different. What works with one child may not work with another.

Reasons not to spank

1. Spanking is hitting, and hitting hurts physically, emotionally and socially.
2. Hitting people is wrong - and children are people, too.
3. Children who are spanked are more likely to be aggressive. This can lead to other problems, like bullying.
4. Spanking can result in fear, not respect. A child who fears a parent may learn to hide behaviour and lie rather than trust that parent to guide and teach.
5. Spanking may get a quick reaction, but next time you may end up hitting harder. And when you're angry and stressed, it's easy to injure your child.
6. Spanking doesn't teach the right lesson. It shows a child that hitting is a way to solve problems.

You may be saying to yourself, "I was spanked and I turned out okay." It could be that you turned out okay in spite of being spanked, not because you were spanked.
In the past, parents did the best they could with what they knew. Today, we know a lot more about how children develop. That's why more and more parents are choosing not to spank.

Use discipline to encourage good behaviour

You are the best role model your child has. Show your child how to solve problems in a peaceful way.

1. Make a few simple rules that are fair and reasonable for your child's age.
2. Make sure children know what is expected of them so it's easier for them to cooperate. Be consistent.
3. Make routines and stick to them, especially at bedtime and mealtimes. Your child is more likely to misbehave when tired, hungry or over-excited.
4. Listen and try to understand your child's point of view. Help your child to talk about feelings like anger and sadness. Let your child know that it's okay to cry.
5. When your child is having fun, it's hard to stop. Give your child time to end the activity.
6. Children can get bored easily, so plan ahead for outings. For example, distract your child with a toy or play a game while waiting in line.
7. Allowing children to make simple decisions makes them feel good, and it teaches them how to solve problems. Offer choices like, "Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt?"
8. Children don't always understand dangerous situations. Supervise your child and explain the dangers as often as possible.
9. Be part of the solution. Encourage your child to come to you with problems and figure them out together.
10. Praise your child when rules are obeyed and be patient when they are broken. Learning is a process and it won't happen overnight. Remember, you can never give too many hugs.

Disciplining your child takes time and patience, but it can make parenting easier and more rewarding. Your relationship with your child will grow stronger and your child will learn important skills.

Use discipline when your child misbehaves

Your child knows the rules. You've reminded gently, but nothing seems to be working. So, what do you do next?
Choosing to discipline rather than spank is still the best way of getting through to your child. Testing the limits is natural and part of growing up. Teaching your child how to behave is up to you.

1. Don't let your anger get the better of you. Take a minute to cool off. When you are calm, find out why your child misbehaved.
2. Talk it out. Listen. Let your child know why you are upset. Be careful what you say - mean words can hurt your child.
3. Use consequences that make sense with your child's actions and age. For example, if your four-year-old throws a toy, take away the toy for a short time.
4. Turn a tough situation into a game. A child who refuses to put away the toys is more likely to do it if you make it fun. Children also learn through play.
5. Your child will have bad days just like you. Hugs and staying calm help your child get through tantrums and tears.
6. Ignore minor misbehaviour. Ask yourself, "How important is it to respond?" Ignoring often works to stop unwanted behaviour.

Most importantly, let your child know that, while you aren't happy with misbehaviour, your love will never go away. Parenting is tough work, but it should never hurt.

Remember

1. Babies can do no wrong. They need love and attention. They should never be shaken or hit in any way.
2. Be patient with toddlers. Everything is new to them and they have short memories. Gently remind them of the rules when they forget.

Making it work

Your child will be happy and healthy if you are happy and healthy. When things get to be too much for you, take some time for yourself. Go for a walk, take a bath or call a friend. If that doesn't work, there are ways to get help. Relatives and friends, other parents and family resource programs can all help. So can we.

Get in Touch with us:

Toronto Health Connection 416-338-7600 or call Parent Help Line 1-888-603-9100 (24 hrs)

Baby Massage - Head and Face

Dr Alan Heath & Nicki Bainbridge

Head and Face by DK Publishing
Initially, babies tend to resist head and face massage, particularly during the first few weeks of life, and if the delivery was long or traumatic. Try this massage for three to four consecutive days. If your baby seems unhappy or cries, place still hands on his head to reassure him, then massage other parts of his body. Do this each time you massage him until he is ready for a head massage. Once babies are accustomed to these strokes, they tend to enjoy them greatly, and even more so as they get older. Lay your baby on his back with his feet closest to you. Use light strokes with little or no oil.
Head Massages

• 1. STROKING THE HEAD
  Cup your hands around your baby's head with your forefingers on his hairline. Moving your hands simultaneously, stroke backwards over the crown of the head until you reach the base of his skull. Move directly on to step 2.
• 2. STROKING THE JAW
  Part your hands and bring them to the sides of his face. Stroke along the jaw line with your fingers until they meet at the chin. Repeat steps 1 and 2 several times.

Face Massages

• 1. STRETCHING THE FOREHEAD
  Position your thumbs at the centre of your baby's forehead, just below the hairline. Stroke each thumb outwards in a straight line to the sides of the face. Repeat all the way down the forehead, as if you are drawing a series of lines with your thumbs.
• 2. MASSAGING THE TEMPLES
  On the last stroke across the forehead, place your thumbs in the centre, just above the eyebrows, and glide them across to your baby's temples gently, but firmly. Now make several small, circular strokes on the temples.
• 3. STROKING THE UPPER CHEEKBONES
  Place your thumbs on either side of the bridge of the nose. In a single flowing stroke, move each thumb simultaneously downwards and outwards, along the upper part of the cheek bone to the sides of the face.
• 4. STROKING THE LOWER CHEEKBONES
  Position your thumbs on either side of the bridge of the nose again, this time slightly lower down. Make a single sweeping stroke with each thumb from this position along the lower part of the cheek bone and out to the sides of the face.
• 5. CIRCLES ON THE TOP JAWLINE
  Position your thumbs side-by-side on the dip above your baby's top lip. Pressing lightly, make small, circular movements with the thumbs. Glide each thumb outwards a little and repeat. Do this along the length of the top jaw line and out towards the ears.
• 6. CIRCLES ON THE LOWER JAWLINE
  Place your thumbs side-by-side just below the centre of the lower lip. Using light pressure, make a circular movement with each thumb, then slide them outwards a little way and repeat. Do this along the lower jaw line, again, towards the ears.
• 7. SQUEEZING THE EARS
  Hold the outer edge of the upper ear between forefinger and thumb. From this position, make small circular strokes down the outer edge of the ear to the lobe.
• 8. SQUEEZING THE CHIN
  Starting at the centre of the chin, hold the flesh at the bottom of the chin between thumb and forefinger and squeeze gently. Repeat along the length of the lower jaw line to the ear, then on the other side of the chin. Alternatively, pinch both sides of the chin simultaneously using both hands.
• 9. STROKING THE HEAD
  Repeat the steps for the head massage above to finish the head and face massage.

This is an excerpt from the Baby Massage, the calming power of touch by Dr Alan Heath & Nicki Bainbridge, DK Publishing

Teething

Recognising when your baby has started teething - and how to help them through it

Teething can start as early as three months but typically starts between four and seven months. It will continue until a child's third birthday.

Who's first?

1. The first teeth to appear are usually the two bottom front teeth, also known as the central incisors.
2. These are usually followed 4 to 8 weeks later by the four front upper teeth (central and lateral incisors).
3. About 1 month later, the lower lateral incisors (the two teeth flanking the bottom front teeth) will appear.
4. Next to break through the gum line are the first molars (the back teeth used for grinding food), then finally the eyeteeth (the pointy teeth in the upper jaw).
5. Most children have all 20 of their primary teeth by their third birthday.
6. These are general guidelines - if your child experiences significant delay, speak to your child's doctor.

Tell-tale signs that your baby is teething

• Drooling:
  It will seem like someone left a faucet on inside your baby's mouth. He will probably sputter a lot.
• Drool Rash:
  As the baby's skin is sensitive, the constant drool of saliva could cause a red, harmless rash around the lips and cheeks.
• Diarrhea: 
  Teething can cause a little bit of diarrhea, which could lead to diaper rash.
• Bulging Gums:
  You will notice the outline of the teeth under the surface of the gums.
• Little Vampires:
  Baby will bite and chew on everything including fingers, toys, necks and breasts.
• Crankiness:
  Most babies will be irratable and hard to please.
• Coughing:
  The excess saliva can cause the baby to cough and gag.
• Fever:
  It's very common for teething to be accompanied by low grade fever.
• Ears:
  Often a baby will rub or pull on his ears.

Teething is a normal developmental process in which the first set of teeth, called primary teeth, break through the gums. During this period, your baby will be experiencing some pain and discomfort, so be prepared to lose a few hours of sleep. Don't stress though, it's not all bad. Here are some tips that will help you and your baby:

• Wipe your baby's face often with a cloth to remove the drool and prevent rashes from developing.
• Place a clean, flat cloth under the baby's head during sleep to catch the drool therefore you'll only have to change the cloth when it gets wet, not the whole bed sheet.
• Give your baby something hard to chew on. Make sure it's big enough so as not to swallow and strong enough so it can't break into small pieces. Try a rubber teething ring that can be cooled in the fridge, but avoid the liquid ones because they may break. Be sure to take it out of the freezer before it becomes rock hard - you don't want to bruise those already swollen gums! Never tie a teething ring around a baby's neck, as it could get caught on something and strangle the baby.
• Rub your baby's gums with a clean finger, a small cool spoon or wet gauze
• Try Acetaminophen (Tylenol) or Ibuprofen (Advil)-these are both safe and effective pain relievers.
• This may well give you a few hours extra sleep. Never place an aspirin against the tooth, and don't rub whiskey on your baby's gums.
• Teething gels such as Ambusol and Orajel containing local anesthetics can provide some pain relief by numbing the gums. Only use as last resort as they taste bad, they can numb the tongue and lips, and it's easy to use too much and therefore the baby can swallow it.

Dental Hygiene-Start'em young

Even though your child's first set of teeth will fall out, it is still very important to keep the teeth clean. Dental care should begin immediately. Wipe gums daily with a damp cloth or with a baby-sized toothbrush, with no toothpaste. You shouldn't really use toothpaste on a child until they can spit it out, around 3 years old, as fluoride can affect a child's health. Brush at least twice a day or after meals. Flossing is also vital when two teeth start growing beside each other. A good idea to get the child interested is by letting him/her imitate you as you floss and brush. Visit a dentist regularly to get your child accustomed to visiting the dental office.

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Breastfeeding your baby

Dr. Miriam Stoppard

Breastfeeding creates a strong bond between mother and baby if feeding time is relaxed and pleasurable for both. Make sure your baby can see you, and smile and talk to him while he is suckling. He will come to associate the pleasure of feeding with the sight of your face, the sound of your voice, and the smell of your skin. Make sure you are both comfortable before you start. If your baby still seems hungry after feeding for as long as he wants from one breast, offer the other breast, burping him before changing over.

Possible problems

It is perfectly normal for breastfeeding not to go smoothly at first, so don’t worry about minor setbacks, such as your baby refusing a feed. Remember that he too is learning and that it will take time for you to get used to each other, so persevere, and ask your midwife or health visitor for advice and suggestions.

Refusing the breast

It is quite usual for a newborn not to suck very vigorously or for very long during his first 24-36 hours. If this occurs later, however, there may be a problem that needs to be addressed. Breathing difficulties are the most likely cause of a baby’s having problems taking the breast. It may be that your breast is covering his nostrils; if so, gently pull the breast back from the baby’s face, just above the areola. If he seems to have a snuffly or blocked nose, consult your doctor; he may prescribe nose drops to clear the nostrils. If there’s no obvious cause for your baby’s refusal to feed, he may simply be fretful. A baby who has been crying with hunger, or has been changed or fussed over when he’s hungry, can become too distressed to feed. You’ll need to soothe him by holding him firmly and talking or singing; there’s no point in trying to feed him until he’s calmed down.

If there has been some delay in starting to breastfeed, your baby may find it more difficult to take the breast, and you will have to be patient and persevere. Your midwife or health visitor will advise you if you need to give expressed milk from a special cup until your baby can take all he needs from the breast. Supplementary bottles are rarely necessary, and they may cause mothers to give up breastfeeding. Giving expressed milk is a better alternative.

Comfort sucking

Most babies enjoy sucking on their mothers’ breasts for its own sake just as much as feeding. You will learn to tell the difference between actual feeding and comfort sucking. During a feed you may notice that your baby is sucking strongly without actually swallowing. There is no reason why your baby shouldn’t suck as long as he wants, provided your nipples are not sore, though he takes most of his feed in the first few minutes.

Sleeping through feeds

If your baby doesn’t seem very interested in food during the first few days, make sure that he takes as much as he wants from one breast. If he sleeps at the breast, it means he is contented and doing well, though premature babies should be woken and fed regularly, as they tend to sleep a lot. If your baby does fall asleep at the breast, wake him gently half an hour later and offer a feed; if he’s hungry he will perk up.

Fretful feeding

If your baby doesn’t settle down to feed, or appears not to be satisfied, he is probably sucking on the nipple alone and not getting enough milk. This may also lead to sore nipples. Check that your baby is positioned correctly on the breast.

How long on each breast?

You should keep your baby on the breast for as long as he shows interest in sucking.

• If your baby continues to suck after your breasts have emptied, it may be that he is just enjoying the sensation; this is fine if it’s not making your breasts sore.
• When your baby has finished feeding from one breast, gently take him off your nipple (see below right) and put him on to the other breast. He may not suck for as long on the second breast.
• Alternate the first breast you offer at each feed. To remind you which breast was last suckled, put a safety pin on your bra.

Underfeeding

You may feel anxious that you can’t see how much your baby has taken, but it is rare for a breastfed baby not to get enough milk. Remember, though, that it does take time for both mothers and babies to get the hang of breastfeeding.

• If your baby wants to continue sucking even though he’s finished feeding from both breasts, it doesn’t always signify hunger; he may just enjoy sucking.
• Thirst may cause your baby to go on sucking after he’s emptied your breasts. Try giving about 30 millilitres (1 fluid ounce) of cooled, boiled water from a special cup.

If he seems fretful and hungry, have him weighed at your baby clinic to check if he is gaining weight as quickly as expected. If you are at all worried about your baby’s feeding, contact your health visitor or doctor. This is an excerpt from Complete Baby and Child Care: Everything you Need to Know for the First Five Years by Dr. Miriam Stoppard, DK Publishing.

Giving a breast feed

The rooting reflex Prompt your baby to look for the breast by gently stroking the cheek nearest to it. Your baby will immediately turn towards your breast, open-mouthed. Latching on Your baby should take the nipple and a good proportion of the areola into his mouth. The milk is drawn out by a combination of sucking and squeezing the tongue on to the hard palate. Releasing the nipple To break the suction, slip your little finger into the corner of the baby’s mouth. Your breast will slip out easily instead of being dragged out.

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Solving Naptime Problems

Elizabeth Pantley

Naps are important for your child's health and growth. A nap refreshes a child so that she can maintain her energy for the rest of the day. Studies show that children who nap are more adaptable, have longer attention spans, and are less fussy than those who don't nap.

Does your child need a nap?

Here are signs that your child would benefit from a nap:

1. Wakes up happy, but gets cranky later
2. Has more patience early in the day
3. Cries more easily in the evening
4. Has an afternoon slump then gets a second wind
5. Has temper tantrums during the bedtime routine
6. Falls asleep in the car or when watching TV

How much naptime does your child need?

Children differ in their sleep needs - but this chart applies to most. Even if your child's sleep hours add up to the right total, his behavior tells you more than any chart could. When in doubt try for a nap, since even quiet time can help a child feel refreshed.

Age	Number of Naps	Naptime Hours	Night Sleep Hours*	Total Sleep Time
Newborn	Newborns sleep 16-18 hours daily, spread over 6-7 sleep periods
3 Months	3	5-6	10-11	5
6 Months	2	3-4	10-11	15
9 Months	2	2½-4	11-12	14
12 Months	1-2	2-3	11½-12	13½-14
18 Months	1-2	2-3	11¼-12	13-14
2 Years	1	1-2½	11-12	13-13½
3-4 Years	0-1	0-1½	11-11½	11-13
5-7 Years	0-1	0-1	11	11-12
*These averages don't signify unbroken stretches of sleep since night waking is normal

Timing and length of naps

Timing of naps is important. A late nap will prevent your child from being tired at bedtime. Generally, the best nap times are:
Two naps: midmorning (9:00 - 11:00) and early afternoon (12:00 - 2:30) One nap: early afternoon (12:00 - 2:30); after lunch
If your child tends towards short naps, don't assume it's all she needs. Try these tips for better naps:

1. Provide a healthy lunch or snack before nap.
2. Keep the room dark.
3. Play lullabies or white noise during the nap.
4. Dress her in comfortable clothes.
5. Be sure that discomfort (teething, allergies, etc.) isn't preventing sleep.

Watch for signs of tiredness

Tired children fall asleep easily. If you miss the signals they become overtired and are unable to sleep. Your child may show one or more of these signs that tell you he is tired and ready to nap:

1. losing interest in playtime
2. becoming whiny or fussy
3. losing patience
4. having tantrums
5. rubbing eyes or yawning
6. caressing a lovey or blanket
7. asking for a pacifier, bottle or to nurse

The nap routine

Once you've created a schedule that works with your child's periods of tiredness, follow a simple but specific nap routine. Your child will be comfortable with a pattern to his day. He may predict when naptime approaches and willingly cooperate with you.

Nap routines change

Children's sleep needs change over time. The routine that you set up today won't be the same one you're using a year from now. Be adaptable!

Excerpted with permission by McGraw-Hill Publishing from The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley (McGraw-Hill, 2002, 2005)www.pantley.com/elizabeth 

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Coffee, Tea &Baby: Is Caffeine Safe During Pregnancy?

Heather J. Mills and Trish Knudsen

Every day almost 90 per cent of North Americans consume some form of chocolate, coffee or tea; caffeine can be difficult to avoid.

Although expectant mothers should talk to a physician for more information about caffeine, research now suggests it can be enjoyed in moderation during pregnancy.

Is caffeine safe during pregnancy?

If consumed in moderation, 150 to 300 milligrams a day is considered acceptable (a 237 ml or eight ounce cup of coffee has about 130 mg of caffeine). Eight ounces is equal to a small coffee at Tim Hortons or a short at Starbucks; a small at Second Cup is 12 oz.

Some studies have indicated that large amounts of caffeine can result in low birth weights and defects; one recent US study shows that even low levels of caffeine consumption increases a woman’s risk of miscarriage.

If you are worried, you may prefer to cut down your caffeine intake, or switch to decaffeinated drinks, especially during the first trimester. Check with your doctor if you have any questions or concerns regarding your caffeine intake. Remember, decaffeinated coffee still contains small amounts of caffeine.

Many women choose to avoid caffeine completely during pregnancy.

Consider this: caffeine stays in the bloodstream of pregnant women for 18 to 20 hours and easily crosses the placenta.

A fetus experiences similar physiological effects (i.e. increased heart rate), as the mother. Caffeine also causes the body to lose fluids and calcium. Nursing mothers should be aware that caffeine is excreted through breast milk.

So what’s the bottom line on coffee?

Drinking more than five cups of coffee daily is unhealthy. If it’s difficult to stop completely, try to limit your consumption or drink decaffeinated coffee and espressos.

Also, beware of the coffee type (some roasts have more caffeine than others) and method of preparation: the amount of caffeine in a cup depends on how it was prepared. For instance, drip coffee has more caffeine than instant crystals.

What about tea and herbal tea?

Although there is generally less caffeine in tea, pregnant women should still drink it in moderation. One eight-ounce cup of tea has about 50 mg of caffeine.

Steeping tea for less time (about one minute) decreases the amount of caffeine per cup. Drinking green or white tea – which still contain trace amounts of caffeine – is an alternative to black tea.

Despite being caffeine-free, ingredients in many herbal teas aren’t safe during pregnancy. Check with your doctor before drinking herbal teas, sometimes even “natural” products can contain potentially dangerous substances. Your best bet is to stick with flavoured black or green tea.

Consider the size of the cup you are using for coffee and tea. Many coffee shops now use a 12 oz cup for a small drink, or a “tall” at Starbucks. A “venti” drink is 20 oz! That means you are consuming two and a half cups of coffee in one sitting, and more than 300 mg of caffeine.

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Benefits of Breastfeeding

We've all heard how beneficial breastfeeding is to both mommy and baby. Here are some interesting facts:
Did you know?

1. Breast milk has natural antibiotic qualities, and many mothers swear that a squirt in the irritated/infected eye of their baby has helped to clear it up.
2. During the first half of the 20th century, when not breastfeeding their babies, moms made their own ‘formula' with evaporated milk, water and table sugar or corn syrup.
3. Breastfeeding burns about 500 calories per day.
4. Breastfeeding reduces your chances of developing breast and ovarian cancer.
5. The more the mother nurses her baby, or pumps, the more milk is produced.
6. There is no such thing as "weak" breast milk. Your body uses the exact ingredients necessary to meet your baby's requirements at every feeding.
7. Breast milk is always the right temperature!
8. Breastfeeding releases Oxytocin - also known as the "love hormone" - which promotes bonding and helps both mom and baby to relax.

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Lullaby and Goodnight

Lullaby and Goodnight
As a new parent you may find yourself rocking your baby to sleep and struggling to remember the simplest of lyrics to the lullabies that you remember from your childhood. We thought we'd help you out with the lyrics to a few of the most common.?

Frere Jacques
(French Version)
Frere Jacques, Frere Jacques,
Dormez-vous? Dormez-vous?
Sonnez les matines! Sonnez les matines!
Din, dan, don. Din, dan, don.

(English Version)
Are you sleeping, are you sleeping?
Brother John, Brother John?
Morning bells are ringing, morning bells are ringing
Ding dang dong, ding dang dong.

Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are!
Up above the world so high
Like a diamond in the sky
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are

Rock-a-bye baby

Rock-a-bye baby, in the tree top
When the wind blows, the cradle will rock
When the bough breaks, the cradle will fall
And down will come baby, cradle and all.

It won't be long before your baby starts to sing these songs to you, so cherish every moment.

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Bug Off!

Summer is a great time to be out with the kids. But are you prepared? With the threat of West Nile, the mosquito problem is a huge issue so we must take precautions to avoid getting bitten. Here are some suggestions:

1. Use insect repellant
2. Wear clothes that cover most of your body
3. Avoid going outside at dusk and dawn
4. Avoid standing water where mosquitoes live & breed

Most people rely on insect repellant. Two questions to ask yourself are:

1. Does it work?
2. Is it safe to use on kids?

Most repellants cntain a chemical called DEET. DEET works by "confusing" the bug's nervous system to prevent it from detecting all of the normal bio-signals it relies upon to find prey. In essence, it makes you invisible to the bug. However, some advocates believe there are adverse effects by using repellants on children containing DEET. Here are some hints to remember, if you decide to use repellent:

1. Always read the label and follow instructions.
2. Use only on exposed skin and over clothes. Do not use under clothes.
3. Do not use on sunburn or irritated skin.
4. Do not get in eyes. (Rinse immediately with water if this occurs.
5. Avoid inhaling spray repellants. Do not use in enclosed areas or near fans.
6. Do not use on kids' hands as they have a tendency to rub their eyes.
7. Always apply it for children or supervise use.
8. Always wash off after use.
9. For children up to 2 years of age - use product with 10% of DEET or less.
10. Pregnant & lactating women should not use repellants even though there is no known risk from DEET.

Bug Repellent Alternatives

1. Bounce dryer sheet: Place it on belt, sock or pocket and the smell will drive away mosquitoes. This really works.      
2. Vanilla: Use the real clear stuff, not extract. Health food stores usually carry it. Mix required amount with the same amount of water and apply. The great thing is that you will not smell like a chemical factory, more like a cookie. Kids will love it.      
3. Marigolds: Plant marigolds around the yard. The flowers give off a smell that bugs do not like, so plant some in the garden to help ward off bugs without using insecticides.

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Royal Bibingka

Ingredients:
900 grams grated cassava
1 (14 ounce) can Carnation Condensed (Reserve 1/3 cup for Topping)
1 (12 ounce) can Carnation Evap
1 (14 ounce) can coconut milk (Reserve 1/3 cup for Topping)
1 (13 ounce) can coconut cream (Reserve 1/3 cup for Topping)
2/3 cups sugar
3 large eggs
3 large egg whites
1 cup grated coconut

Ingredients for the topping:
3 large egg yolks

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 325F.
2. In large mixing bowl combine all cake ingredients. Mix well.
3. Pour equally into two large greased rectangular pans.
4. Bake until top is no longer liquid (approximately 30 minutes).
5. Mix topping ingredients well and spread evenly on the two cakes.
6. Bake an additional 20 to 30 minutes.
7. Cool cakes completely.
8. Slice each cake into 24 equal squares.

The Diaper Bag Checklist

You have a baby and a new diaper bag – now you have to make sure that you have everything else you’ll need for an outing.

What do you put in your diaper bag? When you are packing your diaper bag, always take into account where you are going, how long you will be and what the weather is like.

Here is a guideline that should get you well on your way with everything you need and more. Being prepared will help – especially if you’re a new mom. The last thing you want to worry about is not having everything you need when you have a crying baby on your hands.

Baby:

• 5-10 diapers (make sure you check through your diaper bag before each outing, you don’t want to be out with size two diapers when your baby is now wearing a size four!
• Wipes in a travel size container – make sure this is always stocked.
• Change pad – so you will always have a clean place to lay your baby on for diaper changes.
• Diaper rash ointment – rashes can pop up at any moment!
• Two complete changes of clothing – don’t forget the socks!
• Resealable bags/reusable bag for soiled clothing and/or diaper disposal.
• Hat – either for shade or warmth. These can easily be lost so pack a spare.
• Sweater/jacket or blanket – just in case the weather changes.

Food:

• If breastfeeding: A nursing canopy or receiving blanket to cover you and/or your baby while feeding; extra breast pads – extra long naps may mean extra leakage for mom!
• If formula feeding – sterilized bottle, sterilized water and pre-measured formula – It’s always a good idea to pack for at least one extra feeding – you never know when your baby may decide to have an extra meal or you may be out longer than you anticipated.
• Bottled water for you and baby (depending on how old your baby is)
• Portable snacks for you and baby (age appropriate)
• Two to three bibs
• Burp cloth, two wash cloths for spills
• Jarred food and spoons

Must Haves:

• Pacifier – if your baby is dependant on these make sure you always keep an extra one. These can easily be lost.
• One or two of baby’s favourite toys – stuffed teddy or rattle.
• Teething ring.
• One or two board books – “lift the flap” books are always baby favourites as they keep little hands busy.

Safety:

• Band Aids.
• Tissues.
• Hand sanitizer.
• Cell phone – make sure to save your pediatricians phone number on your phone.
• Sunblock – for you and baby.
• Pain reliever/fever reducer– keep these in a zippered compartment, to keep them away from baby.
• Extra money for emergencies – bills and coins.

Just for Mom:

• Hand cream – for all of those extra hand washes choose one with glycerin for longer lasting moisture!
• Lip balm with an SPF.
• Sunglasses.
• Extra t-shirt – you may be holding baby in your arms when that diaper explosion happens!
• Wallet – you may want to switch from your usual large wallet to a smaller zippered version.
• Keys.
• Extra hair tie.
• Camera – to catch those unexpected moments on film!
• Book or magazine for when baby is sleeping and you dare not move him!

It’s so important to choose the right bag for you. Remember that you will most likely be carrying this bag with you for at least two years! Make sure that it is washable – it will have to go through many spills!

TIP: put the same thing in the same pocket every time so it’s easy & quick to find.

TIP: Keep extra diapers and wipes, blanket, water and a full change of clothes for you and your baby in the trunk of your car – you just never know when it will come in handy!

TIP: Remember to use travel size items (eg. hand cream, diaper rash ointment) they take up less room.

This may seem like a lot of stuff to carry with you all the time. You will find that the more outings you go on it’ll take less time to pack your bag and you’ll have less to carry as your baby gets older!

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