To All the Single Moms

Cute ng blog ni MS Wilma Doesnt..Nakakrelate ako..:)

 
Belated happy mother's day to all of you!

Being a mother is a very tough job...at first it was so exciting, but remembering how it felt when I was in the delivery room—it wasn’t ok at all! I’m sure a lot of mothers out there will agree with my sentiments. Napaka-hirap talaga yung pakiramdam na di mo alam kung napapatae ka ba o kung anong ispiritu ang nasa loob ng katawan mo na gustong umigtad!

Hay, indescribable feeling, kung baga sabi ng iba, after six years of having Asiana, I witnessed two new mothers and how they gave birth to their first born—I was there in mind and spirit—parang feeling ko, na-refresh lahat ng memories ko when I was in that situation.

But the difference is I didn’t have a husband to stand by my side...nakita ko kung paano nataranta mga asawa nila, kung paano nagkamali ang mga lalaki sa pagbili ng milk for their newborn at adult pampers for their wives…being a mother is a very tough job-imagine wala ka salary or tf wala ka pa day off...at ang masakit doon, wala ka pang asawa…di ba ang sad?

But on the other hand, based on my personal experience, easier to be a single mom. I’m sure marami ang magtataas ng kilay diyan. There are pros and cons, but I’m not telling everybody to be a single mom ha! Kasi mahirap siya when you're alone talaga...

Anyway, advantages first. Easier in making any decisions for the sake of the bagets…as they always say, mothers knows best. Madali din kung anong values ang kailangan mong ituro sa bagets, kasasma na diyan ang religion, beliefs, at kung anu-ano pang ka-eklatan sa buhay. One thing I’ve learned from being a single mom is to be true and honest to my kids. Mahirap talaga sa una, pero pag nasany ka na super dali lang. I remember the first time Asiana asked me about her father: ay, day! Literal na nahulog ako sa upuan kasi that is the first time that I had to talk to her about her father. Syempre may tatay talaga siya, ano ako immaculate conception mag isa lang nabuntis? Di noh! But it was a decision I had to make, and what I tell her could make or break her as a person.

So para mapadali ang buhay ko, sinabi ko ang totoo about her father. Gosh!!! Lapot ako after that, buti na lang matalino ang anak ko mana sa nanay niya (wag na kumontra, akin talaga mana). Minsan tayong mga matatanda mahirap para sa atin ang magsabi ng totoo. During that time of my life, I had to say the truth, and that same day, may nabasa akong ad sa EDSA na the truth shall prevail...ganda di ba, the universe conspires for us to have our freedom?

Asiana and I have a wonderful relationship because of that day...kaya to all the single mothers, just be true to yourself. That’s the first secret to live a happy life. Nakkss! Try ko lang magpaka-writer dito.

And the second thing is never say bad things about their father. What made me say that? Sa lahat ito ng single mom noh, kahit na ang galit niyo sa tatay ng mga anak ninyo ay lumagpas na sa langit, huwag talaga ipaalam sa bagets para naman they won’t grow up na may galit sa mundo noh! Ang laging isipin niyo, the moment na ginagawa niyo ang bagets ay nakatirik pa ang mga mata nyo...(bastUSSS) Hehehe!

Life is what you make it after all. Til next time, mga ka-blog! Nakssss, gosh I’m beginning to love it... I love you all...you can ask me anything ha, basta ‘wag lang math, mahina ako diyan eh...

by wilma doesnt , wmn.ph